Hear Aaj Ka Purusharth from Peace of Mind TV channel for 26 April 2019. Watch PMTV Live.
Topic: ‘Love and Light’ (Prem aur Prakash)
★【 आज का पुरूषार्थ】★
बाबा कहते हैं …
देखो बच्चे, बाप ने आप बच्चों को महीनता से सारी पढ़ाई पढ़ा दी है और last अभ्यास भी बता दिया है कि love and light का carefully किया गया अभ्यास ही आपको इस दुनिया से न्यारा करेगा…।
बस, आप बाप पर निश्चय रख यह अभ्यास करते चलो। जल्द ही प्राप्तियां शुरू हो जायेंगी।
Love and light का अभ्यास अर्थात इस पाँच तत्वों से न्यारे होने का पुरुषार्थ … और जो यह पुरूषार्थ अच्छी रीति कर रहे हैं, उन्हें इसके result भी positive मिल रहे हैं।
यह जो आपकी पाँच कर्मन्द्रियाँ है ना, इनका प्रभाव भी आप पर नहीं पड़ना चाहिए अर्थात् कुछ भी देखकर, सुनकर, बोलकर कर्म का प्रभाव नहीं पड़ना चाहिए।
अब आँखों को जब भी use करो तो सबकुछ light ही देखो, वो भी बहुत प्रेम के साथ … तो जल्दी ही इसके प्रभाव से न्यारे हो जाओगे…।
देखो बच्चे, शिव बाप ने तो आप बच्चों से पहले से ही promise किया हुआ है कि 100% श्रीमत पर चलने वाले बच्चों को बाप समय से पहले तैयार कर अपने साथ लेकर जायेगा।
बस, आप double light रहो अर्थात् निश्चिन्त रहो।
बाप आपको किसी भी तरह की, कोई भी परिस्थिति में फँसने नहीं देगा…।
बस, आप आने वाली हर परिस्थिति को मन-बुद्धि द्वारा हल्का कर, LET GO कर, हल्के रहो … आपका ज़िम्मेवार परमात्मा बाप है…।
जितने आप हल्के रहोगे उतनी जल्दी बाप आपको अपने संग बिठा लेगा।
बस, आप बाप पर निश्चय रखो।
बाप की एक-एक बात पत्थर की लकीर अर्थात् 100% सत्य सिद्ध होगी।
शिव बाप अपने हर बच्चे के साथ है। बस, आप ना तो अलबेले बनना और ना ही दिलशिकस्त होना…।
देखते ही देखते बिल्कुल अचानक ही समय परिवर्तन होना है…।
♻ मैं महसूसता की शक्ति द्वारा स्व-परिवर्तक सो विश्व-परिवर्तक आत्मा हूँ ♻
कोई भी परिवर्तन का सहज आधार महसूसता-शक्ति है। जब तक महसूसता-शक्ति नहीं आती, तब तक अनुभूति नहीं होती और जब तक अनुभूति नहीं तब तक ब्राह्मण जीवन की विशेषता का फाउन्डेशन मजबूत नहीं। महसूसता की शक्ति बहुत मीठे अनुभव करा सकती है। कभी अपने को बाप के नूरे रतन आत्मा अर्थात् नयनों में समाई हुई श्रेष्ठ बिन्दु महसूस करो। कभी अपने को मस्तक पर चमकने वाली मस्तक-मणि,चमकता हुआ सितारा महसूस करो, कभी अपने को ब्रह्मा बाप के सहयोगी, राइट हैण्ड साकार ब्राह्मण रूप में ब्रह्मा की भुजायें अनुभव करो, महसूस करो। कभी अव्यक्त फरिश्ता स्वरूप महसूस करो। ऐसे महसूसता शक्ति से बहुत अनोखे, अलौकिक अनुभव करो। इस महसूसता-शक्ति को बढ़ाओ तो दूसरे तरफ की कमज़ोरी की महसूसता स्वत: ही स्पष्ट होगी। शक्तिशाली दर्पण के बीच छोटा-सा दाग भी स्पष्ट दिखाई देगा और परिवर्तन कर लेंगे।
* MADHUBAN *
सच्चा ईश्वरीय ज्ञान, केवल परमपिता परमात्मा शिव द्वारा पुरुषोत्तम संगमायुग में ही रहस्योदघाटित करते हैं। वही सर्व आत्माओं के परमपिता हैं. इसी समय अर्थात कलयुग रूपी रात्रि के अंत और सतयुग रूपी दिन के संगमयुग पर, वे अपने परमधाम से अवतरित होकर देह-अभिमान के कारण हम आत्माओं में व्याप्त विकारों और अज्ञान के अंधकार को दूर कर, इस भारत भूमि को पुनः स्वर्ग अथवा जन्नत अथवा बैकुंठ बनाने का श्रेष्ठ कार्य कर रहे हैं। वही हम आत्माओं को सही और गलत की, सत्य और असत्य की यथार्थ समझ प्रदान करते हैं। हम आत्माएँ जो अपनी और परमात्मा की पहचान को भूल चुकी हैं, वह आकर हमे आत्मा, परमात्मा और सृष्टि के आदि, मध्य, अंत के साथ-2 कर्मों की गुह्य गति का ज्ञान देते हैं और हमें श्रेष्ठ कर्म करना सिखलाते हैं. चूंकि वे निराकार हैं इसलिए वह एक साधारण वृद्ध और अनुभवी तन, जिन्हें वह ब्रह्मा नाम देते हैं, का आधार लेकर हमें राजयोग का ज्ञान देकर हमारी मनुष्य से देवता बनाते हैं। प्रजापिता ब्रह्मा के द्वारा ही वह हम बच्चों को भी एडॉप्ट करते हैं और ब्राह्मण धर्म की स्थापना करते हैं।
इसके अलावा वह विभिन्न धर्मों के प्रमुख त्योहारों के आध्यात्मिक रहस्य को भी रहस्योदघाटित करते हैं। इस ईश्वरीय ज्ञान के अनुसार, लेनटेन ऋतु इस बात का द्योतक है कि वर्तमान समय, देह-अभिमान के कारण हम आत्माएँ पतित बन चुकी हैं।
अतः,
परमात्मा जो की सदा पावन हैं और पवित्रता के सागर हैं और कल्याणकारी हैं, हमें ‘पवित्र बनो और योगी बनो’ की श्रेष्ठ मत देते हैं. वह हमें बताते हैं कि अब इस मृत्यु लोक में हमारा यह अन्तिम जन्म है, इसलिए अब हमें देह और देह की दुनिया, में रहते हुए, इनसे निमित्त मात्र संबंध निभाते हुए एक परमपिता परमात्मा शिव को ही याद कर पावन बनना है।
ईश्वरीय ज्ञान के अनुसार, उपवास का आध्यात्मिक महत्व मन, वचन, कर्म, संबंध-संपर्क सहित संपूर्ण पवित्र रहना है. और काम-काज करते परमात्मा को याद करके पावन निर्विकारी बनना है। यद्यपि लेनटेन काल को सिर्फ 40 दिनों तक ही मनाया जाता है, किन्तु परमपिता परमात्मा शिव के मार्गदर्शन में अब हमें इस पुरुषोत्तम युग में प्रतिक्षण पवित्रता की दृढ़ प्रतिज्ञा करनी है और उसका पालन करना है। इस उत्सव को यथार्थ रीति से मनाने से हम आत्माएँ पुनः अपने वास्तविक गुणों और शक्तियों से भरपूर हो जाएंगी और 21 जन्मों के लिए स्वर्ग का राज्य-भाग्य के मालिक बन जाएंगी।
तो आइए, परमात्मा शिव द्वारा सिखाए जा रहे श्रेष्ठ ज्ञान को धारण कर श्रेष्ठ बनें और श्रेष्ठ कर्म करें। एक ओर गुड फ्राइडे वर्तमान समय पर परमात्मा द्वारा सिखाए जा रहे राजयोग के आधार पर हमारा उनकी याद की यात्रा पर एकाग्र होने और इस पुरानी दुनिया से जीतेजी मरने का यादगार है, वहीं दूसरी ओर ईस्टर का पर्व, परमात्मा द्वारा हम आत्माओं अर्थात रूहों को वापिस अपने घर शांतिधाम लेकर जाने और उनके द्वारा वर्तमान समय में सिखाए जा रहे राजयोग के आधार पर पुरुषार्थ के द्वारा शीघ्र ही आने वाले स्वर्ग का मालिक बनने का भी यादगार है। आप सभी को गुड फ्राइडे और ईस्टर के शुभ अवसर की हार्दिक शुभ कामनाएँ।
What is real compassion and real HELP? What is the nature of God? Do not judge others quickly. Even if it seems wrong, wait and watch. Learn for yourself and guide others towards God.
Here is an email letter received from a new godly student Jonali. She writes about an event happened around a centre which she believes was a mistake by Sisters/brothers at that centre. Here in this ‘Response’ we do not judge anyone, but give a higher vision.
We hope, this response will guide you also in many ways possible.
Original Email Received in Jan 2019
Om Shanti Shiv Baba,
I am student soul of New Guwahati Brahmakumari center. Yesterday in the evening, outside near the gate of this New Guwahati Brahmakumri center, a dog was lying and crying in pain. He couldn’t move and his one leg was shivering and so his body was also. It was very cold. My mom and one aunty bought biscuits and gave it to him. We were really hopeful that the behenjis and bhaijis who work there everyday and stay long in the center, they will sort out this issue. If they need money for petrol and ask everyone for contributions, no one will refuse, because everyone wanted to help the dog and everyone respects Behenji’s request. Surprisingly it seems a careless issue for the Behenjis and young Bhaijis, who are all the time ready to give “seva”. We asked the Behenji and Bhaiji of the center today about the that dog. But they simply, sweetly, innocently replied we don’t know which I was not expecting from them at all. How could they be such inhumane after being so much dedicated to God.
Is this kind of ” Seva” or service our beloved God Shiv Baba want everyone to do “ignore others pain”, even in front of eyes? I want answer from Brahamkumari as it relates to them. I believe in Nirakar Baba and will always respect him. But I am disappointed with some of his Sakar children. With regards
Our Email Response
Dear Divine Brother/Sister
Good morning Your email letter is received and read. You have waited 6 or 7 days which is too long for a Soul like you. Hope you shall see above a personal level and you see the truth as it is. Do read this email as if this is the most important thing to do. Attention Please.
Not you and not the center incharge’s decision is preferred. Both of you made a mistake.
Centre brother/sister made a mistake when they did not attend you (in case you asked them for help). But you didn’t mention if you did ask or not for their help?
You made a mistake as you didn’t know the reason of their silence or non-helping. Do you know if that were aware of this or not? You simply judged and expected a lot. You should have simply asked them if someone is free to help. Also as you created a big matter from a small event. You also spread your opinion about this. Isn’t it?
I will tell you a greater general truth of life. So listen:
” What is a real help to someone, depends on many aspects. Not necessary that giving somebody what they ask for is a help to them. No. Sometimes if you not give them they want, they shall find their own way and by doing this, they develop and grow themselves. They become better.”
Therefore, Shiv baba teach us and not only teach us, but also inspires us to teach others. Give others or inspire others to do something good. This is ”mansa sewa”. Both are service.
Hope you are getting at the heart of this entire conversation. The essence is that Was it not the magic of that place, that many people gathered to help a poor dog, while you yourself know that such does happen rarely… Didi or the sister or brothers did not help directly. So someone else got the opportunity.
Anyway, of course I know that they did not do this deliberately. There must be a reason. If they did not react even after knowing, they made a mistake.
Shortly, this event became a medium for you to connect to this Godly service named as ”Shiv Baba Service” where every new or old souls get answers as Shiv baba’s Shrimat. The best answer.
Hope you also are benefitted. Lastly, saying that you are a kind hearted soul, much compassionate. BUT.. But this is not the best nature you can adopt.
You can adopt a better nature, that is – the nature such as of God (shiv baba). Wish to know?
Compassion does not mean to cry with them or to feel pain for them. No. Does God the father and creator of all of us souls feel pain when he see those in pain?? Think about this and you shall understand the real beauty of creation. Whatever is, it is perfect and is for a reason.
Essence: Creation or the World is made as an image of God. That is the whole nature serves us as God serves us. Souls who are in pain, are for a reason. There is NO accident that happens without a reason. There is always a good reason. God tries his best to solve the difficulties of his beloved children, so that we can resolve our past mistakes and be happy. The Law of Karma is followed for all.
Make you intellect wider. There are 84 lack different species on Earth. They all are souls. But only the human souls have mind and intellect. Rest all creatures only have a nature (sanskaar) with which they live their life.
It is nice that you have a compassionate heart. But if you cry and create sorrow, what shall you send them? You are sending them pain. Instead you should send them peace, love and power. Isn’t it?
As you get more Gyaan, your intellect will be focused on truth and you will get answers directly and instantly. Remember this.
Do tell you spiritual progress, How did you come in Gyaan and when? Hope this letter you save or print so that to keep for long time (we have emailed separately)
These are questions and its given answers from Murli related concepts. Baba has answered everything in brief. We children only need to churn (Vichar manthan) and this way we imbibe the ”power” from the raw knowledge. Sakar murlis are the source of pure (raw) knowledge, while Avyakt murlis are source of wisdom.
1. ”Is Moksha the ultimate aim of Life?”
Moksha if you say -it means ”complete freedom from the Drama cycle” which is NOT possible. You see even ParamAtma (the Supreme soul) is bound to come to play his part of creating heaven in world (golden age). You are here. That simply means that you the soul has to come here again as the cycle repeats.
Hence the goal of this precious life is not moksha as written in texts. Soul desires happiness. That’s why you came here. Silence or Peace (Shanti) is natural. You don’t need to do anything to achieve peace (liberation). But you definitely need to do Purusharth and walk on the path to achieve ”liberation in life” which means – Happiness of the Golden age. God comes and creates the new world, o he definitely wish that maximum children will see this wonderful world.
”Everyone has to come in world now or then. So why not come at the beginning (when the world is in the Satopradhan stage)”
Please watch this video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ct6f6kSSgKs
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* शिव भगवानुवाच :-*
1.) जैसे मैं इस ड्रामा को साक्षी होकर देखता हूँ वैसे तुम भी देखो तो बाप समान बन जाएंगे।
2.) स्वस्थिति श्रेष्ठ है तो परिस्थितियां बदल जाएगी, तुम्हारा कुछ नहीं बिगाड़ सकेंगी।
3.) तुम सिर्फ मुझे याद करो, तुम्हारे लिए सोचने का काम भी मैं करूँगा।
4.) तुम अपनी श्रेष्ठ पोजीशन में रहो तो कोई भी अपोजीशन कर नही सकता।
5.) तुम अपने श्रेष्ठ स्वमान में रहो तो वहां हर गुण व शक्ति का नशा सदा इमर्ज रूप में रहेगा।
6.) तुम्हारा सोचना, देखना सम्पूर्ण बनने का आधार है, तुम्हारी दृष्टि से आत्माएं और प्रकृति पावन बन रही है।
7.) ज्ञानसूर्य से शक्ति लेकर सबको देना यह मुख्य सेवा है बाकी सेवाएं तो निमित्त मात्र हैं।
8.) स्वभाव में सरल और पुरुषार्थ मे अटेंशन रख चलो तो नम्बरवन में आ जाएगी।
9.) तुम बाप की याद मे रहो तो प्रकृति विनाश के समय तुम्हारे समीप आकर एक फुट की दूरी पर रुक जाएगी।
10.) जब तुम अपने आप को सम्पूर्ण रीति से जान जाओगे तो सम्पूर्णता को प्राप्त कर लेंगे।
11.) तुम अपने को निमित्त समझकर चलो, जिम्मेवार मैं हूँ- यह स्मृति सब जिम्मेवारियों से हल्का कर देगी।
12.) यह सेवाएं तो तुम्हे बिजी रखने के लिए हैं, तुम्हारा लक्ष्य तो स्वयं परिवर्तन से विश्व परिवर्तन करना है।
13.) याद का बल उन बच्चों को मिलता है जो ऑनेस्ट हैं और जो सच्चे बाप से सच्चे होकर चलते हैं।
14.) बाप अपने को निमित्त समझकर निश्चिंत रहता है और बच्चे अपने को जिम्मेवार समझ कर परेशान रहते हैं।
15.) सर्वस्व त्यागी बनो तो सरलता और सहनशीलता का गुण आ जाएगा।
16.) जो बच्चे स्वमान की सीट पर सेट रहते हैं और उनका जिम्मेवार बाप है, जो नही रहते उनके जिम्मेवार वे स्वयं हैं।
17.) जितना बाप की याद में रहेंगे तो बाप के साथ का व बाप की छत्रछाया का अनुभव होता रहेगा। Video: Yaad aur Farista stage (Avyakt murli clip)
18.) जो त्यागी और तपस्वीमूर्त हैं भाग्य उनके आगे-पीछे दासी के समान आता है।
19.) तुम सुख के सागर के बच्चे हो, तुम्हे संकल्प में भी दुख की लहर नही आ सकता।
20.) बुध्दि रूपी विमान से सेकंड में वतन में पहुँच सर्वशक्तिमान बाप की किरणों का अनुभव करना ही शक्तिशाली योग है। (Refer: आत्मा की 8 शक्तियां)
21.) तुम कल्याणकारी बाप के बच्चे हो, स्वप्न में भी तुम्हारा अकल्याण नही हो सकता।
22.) तुम नॉलेजफूल आत्माएं संसार को रोशन करने वाले हो, तुम्हारे जीवन में एक सेकंड भी अंधकार नही हो सकता।
23.) तुम्हारे भाग्य का निर्माण स्वयं भाग्यविधाता बाप ने किया है, भाग्यविधाता ही तुम्हारा हो गया है।
24.) जो बच्चे परमात्मा प्यार में खोए रहते हैं उन्हें संसार का कोई भी आकर्षण आकर्षित नही कर सकता।
25.) जो आत्माएं बाप के नयनों में समाई रहती हैं माया की नजर उन पर पड़ नही सकती।
Nowadays it has become common for students to feel depressed due to failure. This is our guidance on how to overcome such thoughts and come out winning with flying colors.
Original Email Received
Om shanti Mera naam vimlesh hai. me aap se Apne jiwan related Kuch poochna chati hoon. abhi kuch same se Me bahht udaas hoon. me medical ki student hoon aur abhi Maine apni higher studies ke liye exam Diya tha jo ke clear Nahi hua aur pehle bhi me do Baar kabhi ek marks se shortlist ho ke bhi select Nahi hui. MERI maa ke Saath bhi Mera Kisi Baat ko leke ladayi ho gayi jis vajah se me bahht udaas rehti hoon. kitni Baar to Mera Mann suicide Karne ko bhi Kiya. Aap mujhe batayenge me in sab se kaise niklu.
Email Response + Guidance
To: Everyone reading this From: Prajapita BrahmaKumari Ishwariya Vishwa Vidhyalay (Godly University)
Dear divine Sister,
“Success and failure are the part and parcels of life.”
However one should never get demotivated with these hurdles but take failure as a lesson and move ahead. If something is not working out according to your plan then its definitely as per God’s plan. Watch this~ solution to student’s life
1. Sister, don’t get upset or saddened. This way you’ll lose two things, first your concentration towards studies and second mental peace.
And loss of both can cause even more hurdles in your life. This is the reason of increasing tensions between you and your mother.
The more you will keep yourself ‘झमेलामुक्त’ i.e free from confusions, more you will be effective and efficient in every sphere, be it studies or relationship with your mother.
2. Also causing the thoughts of suicide are the lowest and meanest level of thoughts. Suicide is never a solution to any problem but an accumulation of past life problems to the next one. In next life, this life’s issue will be carry forwarded. So there’s no Escape. Dealing is the only solution now.. (see point 3 for solution)
3. Your and your mother must Attend 7 days Rajyoga meditation course online or at your nearest center.
~ You must practice Swamans. This will help you transform your thoughts- > http://bit.ly/Swamaan (save the link)
* Below are articles for you and your parents to read *
Clarification on Why to use WhatsApp and other technologies wisely – By BK Sister Shivani. Today we have a powerful device in hands (mobile phone) which if used wisely can benefit our life in many ways. In many ways, it also is making our life easy and broad. But if not used properly and restricted, the same phone can destroy the peace of our life, our relationships and intelligence of our mind.
Original Email Received
Respected Sister,
I saw the first 3 episodes of SOUL REFLECTION and I have few doubts in my mind.
Sister, I am doing chartered accountancy course and about to enter into the corporate world within a couple of months.
If I follow what you said that is “delete WhatsApp message before reading if that is toxic for our mental health”, then how will i be able to sustain in this world.
And also you said that at that moment think about , ” what’s the purpose of my life”, but then will never be able to sustain in the outer world and will fail very badly, no doubt i would win in my inner world, but this is not enough to live a prosperous and happy life, for that even social relations, friends are necessary.
What is the solution for the same?
Thanking you.
Our Email Response
To: Everyone reading this
From: BK Shivani, Prajapita BrahmaKumari Ishwariya Vishwa Vidhyalay (Godly University)
Dear Divine Sister
This is the response to your email letter received 2 days ago.
It is true that to stay in our loukik job, one has to know about many things. You may have to feed this information in mind, analyse it and then take a decision. The purpose of saying to ”delete the messages” was not for such a cause which you too.
Today there are many means which can and are distracting us from our purpose in life. Mobile phone has become a very powerful device. On one click can access everything of world. So necessity arises – to be wise to use it. Those who do not use this technology power wisely, falls in its effect and lose a control in life. Think…
So for you – do read important messages and only keep them in mind for a temporary cause. Do not store for long. Only that information is useful which serves us to become better in life or serves us, inspire us to do something good. Every other is non-useful.
This is called ‘filter’. It is explained by many that technology can make your life and also destroy. Today, small children also get a mobile phone. They play games on phone. Is it any good? No. Playing outside only can benefit both mentally and physical growth. Even they learn friendship, sportsman-spirit and such virtues/values.
ESSENCE
Yes we need this technology to make our life better. This really is a source that if one uses wisely can do wonders for the world. See how many services are being done through the TV channels (like PMTV), YouTube (channels) and even WhatsApp (spreading awareness). So limit yourself to only what is needed in life. Why think about external matters which we cannot control..! Isn’t it.?
So some things, a wise soul should put a limit. In specific things that soul will remain unlimited. Remain unlimited in choices of life. Life have unlimited possibilities. You create your own life every second by taking decisions that will then shape our future. God has given us ”intellect” to think and differentiate between right and wrong. We should always stay on the right path – for the self and for others. Our soul regions is of peace, purity, unconditional love and to be every-happy. So check yourself.
Aaj ki Gyan Murli se Ek Kavita – 24 April 2019. आज की मुरली से कविता. This is poem from today’s baba’s murli. To access old murli poems and more, visit the Daily Murli Poems page. Or Listen Audio Murli (Hindi & English) on our page: Daily Gyan Murli
How to get success in what we do? Here is our spiritual wisdom or guidance. Hard work does not mean to work day and night. The best method to get results is to keep a balance in focused hard work and intelligent work. One should also participate in other important things in life – family, outing, picnic, gatherings, etc. Life is to enjoy your work, not to work and work. ”The one who enjoys his job, is already at success.”
Original Email Received
i used to prepare for the interview and most of the time in interview tension is there and i forgot the answers, am a very good hard worker to achieve my goals if i fail often i used to think that am fit for nothing…
Also i practised writing am a victory soul in notebook for some days, i need some easy practice or alternate method to overcome this situation
With hard work, the need of experience and intelligent work is needed. One should find a way where less effort is needed and more work is done. This is called ‘intelligent work’. If you do the same task every day, you soon become an expert and do the same task even faster and better the next time. Right? That is why hard work or perseverance is needed for success.
Stay away from what is not needed in your life. Stay away from Bad company. Stay away from anything that distracts you from your goal. This is most important.
You have contacted to us for a solution, which you have got written and also through given videos (below). Also tell your story – How did you come in our contact and when?
Dear Murali – do watch ALL given videos. All are important and can lead your life to success.
There are 2 types of success:
1. Material
2. Spiritual
Material success -> Getting physical comforts in life. Also includes wealth, established life and appreciation from others on account of position in society.
Spiritual Success -> The comfort of Soul. Inner peace, inner satisfaction /Self realisation due to which one fills as if he has got everything that is needed. But in physical sense, he may not have comforts and luxury. This source of spiritual comfort in only one God. To achieve this eternal/ever lasting comfort, one has to walk on the path of Dharma (righteousness) and give up the 5 vices (lust,anger,greed,ego,attachment). This brings us near to GOD (the Supreme Soul)
Love begins with a good friendship. But how to differentiate between true ”made for each other” love and a good friendship? In this case the parents were against their marriage and they also didn’t intend to hurt their parents or go against their will. So the Kumari (unmarried girl) asks advice to deal with this – Should I marry? and How to convince our Parents?
Original Email Received
Dear sister shivani,
I am Misba 25 yrs old, from my childhood I feel i am never happy in my life. When ever I try to be happy something happens.
Now, when I was in UK for studies I cried everyday thinking this is not for me. I wanna go back home. There I met my classmate Faizan and we really became close in short amount of time, that time I thought he is just my close friend and we used to fight alot, so I was thinking I don’t want a partner like him.
Now my parents got me engaged in Oct 2018. I was never interested in this proposal. When I told my parents they said ” accept this because ye dua ka rishta hai”, should marry a man whom parents have chose. But no I don’t want this. They say if i marry someone else i will never be happy.
I feel now m missing faizan and want to spend my life with him, but my parents are not agreeing neither his parents , the reason they say is society.
I don’t wanna hurt my parents nor I wanna leave faizan. Please guide me what shall I do?
This is about your feelings, isn’t it? Have you not observed that your own feelings are not constant? Sometimes you feel that one person is good for you and in second moment you feel the opposite?
1. The reason why you may are not feeling touched by anyone even when surrounded by many is – that you soul is not fitting, you are not fitting into that atmosphere. You the soul desire something else deeply, while the body lives. You sometimes wish to have another way of living. Do you feel like that?
2. To make a decision, first, our mind needs to DECIDE the better choice among 2 or more choices. And for this, we must understand clearly all the choices we have. It is YOU who are making a choice and hence you must know YOURSELF first. What is my inner desire? What do i wish to do in this life? Remember that life is s precious gift. You are the painter/designer.
‘Marriage’ is a great value. One cannot and should not go in the flow of feelings and get married to a stranger. The word ”stranger” is for anyone whom you don’t know completely. In today’s time you also know that it is very difficult to judge.
Your parents must have thought more about this. Family’s support is VERY important for ”after-marriage life”. Isn’t it? Even the boy’s parents have to accept you.
CONCLUSION (PRACTICAL ADVICE)
Seeing this all, you should consider what to do. You have always seen ‘faizan’ as a ‘friend’. Right? So you can still remain a friend. If you still believe that you have a deeper connection with that soul (Faizan) then go ahead and talk with your parents. Explain them calmly about your feelings for him. Apply every good way to convince and see the result. If they are convinced for your this relationship, then know that you both are really ”made for each other”. If not, then conclude that this all was only a play of our ”Past life karmas”. Refer: Law of Karma & Living
It is assured that if you follow sincerely it will forever change your life, as it did for many.
You have come in connection with us and hence it is our prime responsibility to give you the God’s message – that God has come. Come and know more about us -> https://www.brahma-kumaris.com/about-us
To do anything in life, one needs one or more of our 8 powers (Refer: 8 powers of Soul). So how to develop these 8 powers? – Through RajaYog or Rajyog meditation.
Also that it is God’s shrimat to live as in purity (celibacy). This purity is the mother of peace, love and spiritual powers.
Brahma Kumaris Official Website 